Cutesy/affectionate nicknames, also called pet names, are often used in a relationship to show intimacy.
Calling your mate by a cutesy nickname may annoy other people, but don’t let it disturb you. Researchers say it is a indication that the both of you have a very healthy and strong relationship.
A higher degree of Intimacy – I feel this is extremely self-explanatory. Calling pet names rather than real name sounds closer among you since they’re the names which only two of you can use to address each other. It creates a sense of uniqueness.
Produces a Boundary/Exclusiveness – That is according to the publication How to Increase Your Marriage Without Talking About It. It’s a means to recognize the connection as exclusive because when people around you overhear your cutesy conversation, they know you’re committed to each other. I know this kind of situation does not really happen frequently in the context of a long distance relationship, but two of you can still feel the sense of exclusiveness. When I finally had an opportunity to meet up with my girlfriend after a long time, we couldn’t bother what is happening around us. We focus on each other totally. This doesn’t really occur because of pet names but pet names will make it sweeter definitely. The feeling of exclusiveness is especially important when you are messaging or calling your remote lover when two of you are apart.
Signs of Alert – When two of you begin to call each other using pet names, it’s a clear sign when she calls you by your true name. It can mean two things. Firstly, it is because she’s mad at you about something. Secondly, she’s playing and joking around with you. The former is more likely to happen. You’ll need to decipher it from the tone and context yourself.
About The Awkwardness – I know it’s somewhat awkward and you might feel shy when you are calling your partner by the new nickname. Don’t worry, it is perfectly normal and I have experienced it before as well. It’s like the awkwardness if you need to say “I love you” for the first couple of times. Just say it as normally as possible and keep it for a few days. You both will get used to it. Afterwards, you may feel weird if you don’t use the nickname abruptly.
Address Your Lover At The Beginning of Every Conversation – Bad example: “What do you do?” Great example: “Baby, what are you doing?” Call him or her in pet names before any sentence makes plenty of difference. It sounds a lot more intimate.
Respect Each Other – Remember to honor your lover at all times. Don’t call pet names he or she does not like. The advice is that you could begin calling your lover some pet names you prefer. It will generate more conversations on this. It’s clear from the conversation if he or she likes the pet name. If you feel your spouse does not like it, simply just try another one next time. Another technique is to ask your partner directly saying that whether you can use this pet name on her or him. Usually, your partner will like whatever names you call them. Just… Don’t be shy!